How We Use Our Brains

Interesting read:
http://www.bitrebels.com/lifestyle/how-we-use-our-brains-infographic/

We Live, We Die

Does it all depend on luck in the end? I've been so positive the past few weeks and because of that a lot of doors have opened up. But I also realised that you can loose everything in a heartbeat. An acquaintance of mine died last week. I didn’t know him well but I knew his father well and used to work with his wife. He was best friends with my cousin. I didn’t expect his death to touch me like it did. I mean the one moment, there he was – happily married, stable job, family who loved him, lots of friends, he was popular, well-known. And in a heartbeat he was gone. He was in the hospital for a week, I think – in a coma. He came out of the coma. He was sent home. Everything seemed fine and the next thing I hear, he’s dead.

Things can change so quickly. Blissfully happy the one moment and heartbroken the next. Is there anything we can do to escape this phenomena? How can we prevent this from happening to us? How can I guarantee that this won’t happen to me?

The thing is you can’t. There’s nothing you can do except appreciate and respect life. Live for the moment. Don’t fear the past or the future. LIVE your life. Be grateful. Embrace it. Roll with the punches. This connects us all. We live and we die.

I know life can be hard sometimes. You may feel like you’re living in hell. But we all have moments of happiness (how brief it may be) – savour it and draw strength from it. It balances out in the end – I believe that. In these times of good fortune, I look back and I am thankful for the times it didn’t go so well because I appreciate today so much more. I have gained more wisdom/life-experience because of it. And when hardship hits me again, I’ll be strong enough to look it straight in the eye and get through it.

I'm still alive! LOL!

Okay, so I haven't been blogging much and not gonna bore you with talking about how busy I am... I AM gonna tell you that since we last spoke, I have changed my relationship status from single to actually being in one! I'm so stoked! Anyway, I've also joined the rest of the world and bought a car! Yay! Feel really, really blessed and I'm grateful. Can't wait to spend Christmas with my family and my boo. Feels like I'm living in a fairy tale. And as the year speeds to its end, remember to take time to reflect on the past and plan for the future...

Long time no blog

Okay, so I haven’t been blogging so much lately and since work’s email isn’t working, I’ve decided to take the chance and share a couple of thoughts. Life has really been a rollercoaster ride, since the last time I wrote on this blog. I’ve been so busy at work, and buying a car (yes, I finally did it!!!) and dating this guy, that I haven’t had time to do anything else. It’s amazing how much things have changed in a year. It feels as if my life has summersaulted.

I never thought I would be able to say this but work is actually fun. I finally got my learner’s and a car (bonus) – it’s been on every New Year’s resolution list for the last 5/6 years and this year I went ahead and I did it! I met a wonderful guy and we’re taking it slow (something I’m not quite used to but is working like a bomb) and I am at peace with myself and everyone around me. I have so many blessing that I am thankful for and I really hope that I’ll manage to keep the balance between my love life, family and career.

I think I’m gonna celebrate Thanksgiving (just the idea of giving thanks – not the American pilgrim stuff) this year. Maybe I’ll even invite some friends over to celebrate it with me because I have been seriously blessed and it’ll be good to spread the love. May all of you out there reading this find the same happiness and peace as we near the end of the year!

Reflection

I was about fifteen and me and my father were working on getting to know each other better. I remember he asked me, “What do you want the most out of life?” My response was simple, “I just want love and happiness.” His was, “Is that all?”

He went on and with a puzzled look on his face, he asked me if I didn’t want a car, a house, possessions… and as young and stupid as I was then, I pitied him. We were on different levels. He valued possessions and status; I was more interested in emotions, morals and spirituality.

He was trying to figure out what he could give me to make me happy. What possession, that is… and I guess he didn’t quite understand that just being there when I needed him would have done the trick. He wasn’t there… never. Guess he never figured it out.

My relationship with my father or lack thereof, has definitely and will probably forever influence the relationships I have with various men in my life. I have issues with abandonment, trust and probably a whole lot of other stuff I am not even aware of. I work hard at relationships and often go overboard to show my affection. At the back of my mind I always believe that somewhere down the line; this man will let me down. Whether it’s an uncle, a brother or a boyfriend.

Circumstances have shaped my identity - who I am today. I guess I will have to work on trying to overcome the obstacles created by my past but I’m also stronger because of it and I’m thankful that I can see why it was maybe necessary.

You're looking at the wrong guy!

I just can't get enough of Beyoncé's Why Don't You Love Me, maybe because until recently I could relate to it ;) So today I decided to post the lyrics to this groovy song and dedicate it to all the honeys out there who can't understand why their dream guy just can't seem to fall in love with them... You're looking at the wrong guy, girls!!! Don't worry ladies... the right man is out there somewhere! Uhhh unless he's dead - then I'm sorry... that's tough. Maybe you should start playing for the other team then :) In any case, good luck finding them soul mates!


BEYONCÉ - WHY DON'T YOU LOVE ME LYRICS

Now, now, now, honey
You better sit down and look around
Cause you must've bumped yo' head
And I love you enough to talk some sense back into you, baby
I'd hate to see you come home, me the kids
And the dog is gone
Check my credentials...
I give you everything you want everything you need
Even your friends say I'm a good woman
All I need to know is why?

Why don't you love me?
Tell me, baby, why don't you love me
When I make me so damn easy to love?
And why don't you need me?
Tell me, baby, why don't you need me
When I make me so damn easy to need?

I got beauty, I got class
I got style, and I got @ss
And you don't even care to care
Looka here
I even put money in the bank account
Don't have to ask no one to help me out
You don't even notice that

Why don't you love me?
Tell me, baby, why don't you love me
When I make me so damn easy to love?
Why don't you need me?
Tell me, baby, why don't you need me
When I make me so damn easy to need?

I got beauty, I got heart
Keep my head in them books, I'm sharp
But you don't care to know I'm smart
Now, now now now now now now
I got moves in your bedroom
Keep you happy with the nasty things I do
But you don't seem to be in tune
Ooh.....

Why don't you love me?
Tell me, baby, why don't you love me
When I make me so damn easy to love?
Why don't you need me?
Tell me, baby, why don't you need me
When I make me so damn easy to need?

There's nothing not to love about me
No, no, there's nothing not to love about me
I'm lovely
There's nothing not to need about me
No, no, there's nothing not to need about me
Maybe you're just not the one
Or maybe you're just plain....... DUMB

The light has returned...

The light has returned and it’s bursting out of my drained body like the sun bursting through a forest filled with dark trees, letting the light bleed through it. I feel happy and care-free and at peace. I want this feeling of giddy joy to last forever but on earth, impossible feelings like these don’t last... Happiness is not a constant state.
But a smile lingers at the corners of my mouth, my heart, thirsty for love – yet an abundance of happiness, joy, pleasure, delight and glee escape my lips. I only see puffy clouds and vibrant flowers… Many tiny butterflies are tickling my insides with the light, playful flutter of their wings. I giggle inside and my eyes are aglow. This feeling is extra special because I made it myself – I didn’t rely on anything or... anyone else to wake it up inside of me. It came out of me – out of my mind. I believed it into existence. I focussed on it being real. And no one can take it away from me. I used to look for happiness outside of myself. But realise that it can only be found inside. Everything else is an additional benefit. With this wondrous, glorious feeling comes a wave of self-confidence. I bask in it and nourish it. It might not last long but at least I know this kind of happiness is built on something solid, something inside of me and not another person. I can only be honest with myself and believe in myself to make my dreams come true. For I am the only person I can trust…